My Hopes, Memories and Dreams

My Friends – My Spiritual Kin


My friends are my spiritual-kin. This is not a new revelation but after spending recent days communicating with some of my most treasured friends, I have been awakened to the sum of their influence upon who I see when I look inside myself. For although true friends are often described as mirrors, reflective of our hopes and dreams about who we really desire to be, who emphatically applaud and encourage us on our way, they must also bear witness to who we really are. It is because we cherish the uniqueness of their experiences and their learnings so profoundly, that we can accept their gentle critique of the sometimes flawed nature of our thinking. A friendship that stimulates self-knowing by not always supporting our ego-centricity but that challenges our self-concepts and identifies our insecurities, can be an arousing breath of fresh air to the soul.

In this world we are often consumed by the roles we play, whether as someone’s mother or partner, in our professional life, or in fulfilment of our cultural identity or status. True and honest friendships ignite greater awareness of our inner identity. These friendships provide a sense of freedom…a release from the role-playing and a peeling back of the layers that mask the essence of who we are.

Distinct from family relationships which can stifle us by promoting conformity to the group, obedience and expectation, true friendships act like a loving injection of unflappable courage. They promote individuality and self-love, and always will encourage us to leap towards the most fulfilling path. For just as we want to achieve our best for ourselves, our true friends, our spiritual kin, desire the same for us without competitive zeal or secret condemnation.

Thank you my friends !


5 responses

  1. Forrester McLeod

    My son and I were just talking about this yesterday. So interesting and true. I am coming closer and closer to understanding what real friendship is. I’ve been on both sides of the egocentricity supporting society. It’s exhausting no matter what role we play and it has very little to do with love or friendship. I don’t think it’s malicious….just fear based. It’s nice to be unfolding and learning…

    Thanks for your post. Very timely for me!

    July 8, 2009 at 4:17 pm

  2. colleenincairns

    Thanks for your comments Forrester. Coming to understand and identify the true depths that friendship can provide is certainly a journey ! I observe my teenage daughter struggle at times when her expectations of blossoming friendships are not met and am reminded that until we form some sense of identity we can not be loyal to ourselves let alone others. Yet it takes myriad of experiences with different types of friendships to arrive at this point ! You’re is nice at least to be able to recognise the unfolding and learning is happening.


    July 9, 2009 at 2:31 am

  3. Forrester McLeod

    Hey there Colleen,

    I meant to tell you this the other day and completely spaced it, but was just reminded!

    Perhaps you were already aware of this, but if you’d like to make your name a link so that people can visit your site if they read a comment you’ve left somewhere, just click “users” on your dashboard. Then click “profile”. Scroll down to where it says website and type in your wordpress web address being sure to start with http://www.

    Have a Great One!

    July 12, 2009 at 5:51 pm

    • Thanks Forrester ..Done ! Grateful for the tip…I’m still finding my way around and there’s so much to learn !

      Enjoy your day.

      July 12, 2009 at 11:40 pm

      • Forrester McLeod

        Also….if you have any questions about technicalities….hit the teck line link on my blogroll. The guy is patient, brilliant, and kind. He’s the one that taught me what I passed on to you! Have a blast!!!

        July 13, 2009 at 1:20 am

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